Training Tuesday: How to Create a Bond That Will Last

The role of leader - or "pack leader" as some dog professionals like to call it - is a tricky concept for many. There is a somewhat ill-conceived theory out there that, for dogs, might equals right - you have to win your dog's respect (and love) by dominating him. While this may work in the wild, the reality is that by following this line of reasoning in your own home, you are setting a very dangerous precedent. Within the structure of the "pack," wild dogs are always on the lookout for an opportunity to assume the role the of pack leader. The current leader falls ill or is a little off in any way, and the next in line is immediately prepared to take over. Naturally, the last thing we want in our own lives is a pooch looking for signs of weakness so that he can stage a mini-revolt. In that scenario, the thing keeping your dog in line is not respect, but fear of retribution.

Now, make no mistake - you have the responsibility of assuming the leadership role. Dogs, like children, need (and want) someone to be in control; if you aren't, then they'll assume that role by default. But assuming that leadership by force is not only counterproductive, but is often downright dangerous. Moves like alpha downs (forcing a dog to lie down while the owner physically pins him, thus "proving" dominance), physical corrections, shock or prong collars... These things do not teach your dog the correct behavior - they teach him to be afraid of the wrong behavior and, more importantly, of you. Such methods breed resentment, and, if your dog does not strike out at you directly, he will in all likelihood either be fearful of humans, or actively aggressive toward them.

So, how do you establish the leadership role with your dog? For the next week, that's all you will work on - whether your dog is an old friend who's been with you for years, or is brand new to your home. It's an exercise that requires no training, but will require some vigilance on your part. At times, you may feel as though you're being too strict - don't worry, you can go back to the old ways (with some exciting new changes!) when the week is over.

Begin your week by stocking up on plenty of high-value treats: cheese or lean meats (if using sandwich meats, be sure to choose those with low sodium), cut into pea-sized pieces. I've also found that many dogs will respond to sliced apples, and homemade biscuits are invariably a big hit. Visit bullwrinkle.com for some super, all-natural recipes.

So... You have your treats. Here are the four things you need to do this week to establish (or strengthen) the foundation upon which to build a great training relationship:

(1) All food this week comes from you. If you have children, it's a great idea to repeat this exercise with them at some point, ensuring that every scrap of food your pup gets comes from your little ones. In the wild, great respect is given to those who provide sustenance. For now, though, you are the one setting every meal in front of your pup, and the one tossing him every treat. When feeding a meal, it's a good idea to first make your dog sit - even if just for a moment - before presenting the bowl and letting him chow down.

(2) When you're hanging with your dog, whether at the park, a walk, or just watching TV, make sure you have treats handy. Say your pup's name; the instant he or she looks at you, respond with "Good boy/girl" and toss a treat. What we're after here is the ability for you to always get your dog's attention - this week, you want to be your dog's universe. Before he does anything, he should look to you. Positive re-enforcement (and lots and lots of treats) are the way to make that happen.

(3) Every time you and your dog go through a doorway, you need to be in front. Whether you're going for your daily walk or are simply going from the kitchen to the living room, you should always be first. If he does manage to get through first, call him back (use a leash if necessary, even inside the house) and try again. This may seem silly or overly militant, but you are quite literally playing "follow the leader" with your pooch - and your pooch will get that.

(4) This step may be the tough part - just remind yourself: it's only for a week. Are you ready for this one? Your pup can't sleep with you. Dogs often assume "ownership" of the bed; it's where you are at your most vulnerable, and this is where your pup gets the opportunity to be in charge. Many people find that their dog is most possessive of them when they are in bed, so we'll diffuse that situation this week. If your dog is used to sleeping with you, set up a comfy dog bed beside your own. If he gets on your bed, say "No" firmly and tell him to get off (do not use "down," as this is the command typically given for lie down). If he won't get off the bed, physically remove him - gently, but firmly. Don't argue with him, simply make it happen. It's not a negotiation, it just is the way it needs to be. You may need to go through this a few times for the first couple of nights - don't back down, and don't feel guilty. I promise, you aren't hurting your dog's feelings, you aren't damaging him irreparably. You are setting the stage for great things. After the first couple of nights, your pooch will get the hint, and will likely only try to get on the bed occasionally. Each time, repeat the process and praise him when he gets on his own bed.

Follow these simple steps over the next week, and you'll be amazed at the progress you make. When the week is over, there are a few things you may want to keep in place: Continue having your pup sit for you before presenting his meal, and keep re-enforcing your leadership by only allowing him on the bed (or furniture) when he is invited. Remember to provide lots of encouragement, including treats, pets, and verbal praise, as this may be a confusing time for your pooch at first. But in the end it will be worth it, and you'll be more than ready to begin training next Tuesday, when we'll go over "sit" and "sit-stay," and talk about ways to keep your dog (and you) motivated when training gets a little stale. Until then, drop a line with your questions and thanks for reading!